The online surrogacy

The previous post on da-boss described how a traditional family model fell in the 1960s and 1970s to a four-punch combination of contraception, no-fault divorce, universal social welfare and artificial insemination. The job is now being finished off by the social media.

A while ago I came across an investigative piece on surrogacy in a New Zealand lifestyle magazine. It opened my eyes to a scarily fascinating cutting edge of social revolution ushered in by the internet. The female reporter sneaked into the main New Zealand surrogacy forum posing as someone looking for a sperm donor. Before I go into what she found there let me ask you what you think about surrogacy. You may believe it is a noble idea of helping the couples who would like to become parents but cannot conceive naturally. This is what I thought before reading the article but the reality is much more complex.

The forum described in the article was full of people who wanted to experience the joys of parenting outside what is normally understood as a traditional family. There were business women too busy to look for a partner but wanting to become mothers. Lesbians who could not bear a thought of physical contact with a male. Male ego-maniacs keen for genetic continuity without the ongoing commitments. Neurotic women who would not be able to hold a relationship but wanted a baby. There was also a wealth of different logistical arrangements on offer like a one-off fling on a fertile day of the female, regular monthly hook-ups until conception or artificial insemination. The child would typically not know who the donor was although some males preferred an arms-length contact arrangement or wanted the child to find out at 18 years old or even after the donor’s death.

I think we should stop and think what this really means in the context of the social reality around us. The notion associating children with family is losing any residual meaning. The implied link between conception and physical interaction of a man a woman is no longer valid. Having children is an option which must fit in with the selected lifestyle and habitation preferences, not the other way. The idea of children growing up with their biological mother and father does not even come into it.

Since all social revolutions started as scandals I am not saying that this brave new model of surrogacy is all bad. I am only shocked at the speed with which we have moved from the traditional family to the post-modern free-for-all. No one appears to contemplate and discuss the dangers associated with the changes which are happening. The only clear winners of the online surrogacy are the lesbians who can, figuratively speaking, eat the cake without having it. With the universal welfare available in the West it sounds like a feminists’ ultimate dream – being able to have a child without a male in their lives and then get men to pay for the child’s maintenance (through taxes). It does not get any better, does it?


One Response to “The online surrogacy”

  1. Nick Says:

    I share your frustration, but on the other hand, this is just an additional way to support survival of the Caucasoid race. From this viewpoint I do not mind paying for it. Unfortunately LBGT community has been contributed heaps to the destruction of foundations of the traditional family in the West, so let them at least compensate the numbers a bit. From the child’s perspective this is just a question of Karma (not necessarily a bad one).

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: